Being open to love, especially when you have fear and trepidation around it is the surest way to become even more open. It is when you hide your love away and deny it to yourself and others that you become cynical, negative, and a magnet for all the things that you do NOT want to attract.
Indeed...
Meditate, spend some time alone reflecting. Be honest with yourself in what you want and what you do NOT want. And manifest every day the person that you dream of spending your life with, picture them clearly and see yourself being with them, doing things, shopping, running, MAKING LOVE, yes FANTASIZE totally and completely. Accept that you have already attracted this person and that you have only to walk around the corner, and there they are, smiling at you.
Hey, it could happen!!! It already has!
Spike
http://www.DeMistyfiedDating.com
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Friday, October 7, 2011
Tuesday, June 14, 2011
Coby
One Slightly Used Boyfriend, Blog; Part 4.
I run every morning, well except for Tuesday mornings due to a late night meeting. And by the time my run and workout are complete the dog-walkers are out in full force.
Well yesterday morning was no exception and as sure as rain there was Coby, my buddy, the Yorkshire Terrier puppy who has bonded with me like no other dog.
Coby has a tiny body but has the heart of a pit bull. His master saw me and said "Coby, who's that?"
And then Coby saw me from about 100 feet away and literally dragged his much larger walker to me in a frenzy. Normally Coby will jump right onto me, licking my face, biting my nose, and pulling at anything (usually my sweat towel) from my fingers to play with. But today would be different as Coby decided he needed a belly rub and I was just the guy to do it!
"Dude, why do you write about dogs so much?"
Because dogs are the source of unconditional love, and puppies especially. I have often had the thought that if people would treat each other like dogs treat each other, especially when first meeting (can you imagine all the butt sniffing?) that everyone would be related and society would move at a much more calm pace.
I dated a woman about 3 1/2 years ago who had a great desire to fly into the arms of the man she loved. So as I picked her up from the airport, in a blinding rainstorm, I stepped out of my car, braced myself, and from about 50 feet away she knew exactly what I was doing.
She dropped her bags, ran as fast as she could and as she got to the curb became airborne, flying about five feet directly into my arms and wrapping her legs around my waist, her hands around my neck, and her heart beating very fast.
I damn near fell on my ass but somehow didn't.
This was serving the needs of a woman I cared for and making one small dream come true for her. We didn't last too long but I can assure you that every man she dates hence will be measured to that standard.
I know, I'm meandering, but the point that I'm attempting to make is that when we put our mate first, when we treat each other like someone who matters, when we show the excitement, the glow, and the love of a puppy for a friend, then, then shall we be able to keep the people who matter the most to us.
Spike
http://www.DeMistyfiedDating.com
I run every morning, well except for Tuesday mornings due to a late night meeting. And by the time my run and workout are complete the dog-walkers are out in full force.
Well yesterday morning was no exception and as sure as rain there was Coby, my buddy, the Yorkshire Terrier puppy who has bonded with me like no other dog.
Coby has a tiny body but has the heart of a pit bull. His master saw me and said "Coby, who's that?"
And then Coby saw me from about 100 feet away and literally dragged his much larger walker to me in a frenzy. Normally Coby will jump right onto me, licking my face, biting my nose, and pulling at anything (usually my sweat towel) from my fingers to play with. But today would be different as Coby decided he needed a belly rub and I was just the guy to do it!
"Dude, why do you write about dogs so much?"
Because dogs are the source of unconditional love, and puppies especially. I have often had the thought that if people would treat each other like dogs treat each other, especially when first meeting (can you imagine all the butt sniffing?) that everyone would be related and society would move at a much more calm pace.
I dated a woman about 3 1/2 years ago who had a great desire to fly into the arms of the man she loved. So as I picked her up from the airport, in a blinding rainstorm, I stepped out of my car, braced myself, and from about 50 feet away she knew exactly what I was doing.
She dropped her bags, ran as fast as she could and as she got to the curb became airborne, flying about five feet directly into my arms and wrapping her legs around my waist, her hands around my neck, and her heart beating very fast.
I damn near fell on my ass but somehow didn't.
This was serving the needs of a woman I cared for and making one small dream come true for her. We didn't last too long but I can assure you that every man she dates hence will be measured to that standard.
I know, I'm meandering, but the point that I'm attempting to make is that when we put our mate first, when we treat each other like someone who matters, when we show the excitement, the glow, and the love of a puppy for a friend, then, then shall we be able to keep the people who matter the most to us.
Spike
http://www.DeMistyfiedDating.com
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Back for the Attack:
Well it's been a year since I've blogger-ed and in this universe that is a cardinal sin! I have no excuse, really, but I would like to share some of what I've learned.
I've learned that women want their men to be men, not metrosexuals.
I've learned that women can make a life-altering decision, and then change their mind 30 seconds later.
I've learned that women more easily accept the faults of their man, than men accept the faults of their woman.
I've learned that women can become extremely emotional over tiny things (yeah guys, we do it too) and that if you just listen, quietly, without judging or giving advice or even engaging in any way, that often that is enough.
I learned that jumping to conclusions is like jumping off a cliff.
I've learned that there is nothing more important than honest communication, with a sweet dose of bullshit thrown in.
I've learned that sometimes there is just no pleasing some people.
I've learned that I can't be all things to everyone.
I've learned that I can't deeply love anyone until I first deeply love myself.
I've learned that procrastination is the great killer of everything.
I've learned that sharing our innermost feelings with our lover is often a huge mistake, or the best move we could make (timing is everything!).
I am learning to be honest with myself.
I am learning that we have to work at love, be patient with love, and nurture love. And that when we have hurt someone with our words, there may not be any recovery, even with time.
I am learning.
Sometimes it hurts to learn.
This way we know, by our growing pains, that we are still alive.
Oz
I've learned that women want their men to be men, not metrosexuals.
I've learned that women can make a life-altering decision, and then change their mind 30 seconds later.
I've learned that women more easily accept the faults of their man, than men accept the faults of their woman.
I've learned that women can become extremely emotional over tiny things (yeah guys, we do it too) and that if you just listen, quietly, without judging or giving advice or even engaging in any way, that often that is enough.
I learned that jumping to conclusions is like jumping off a cliff.
I've learned that there is nothing more important than honest communication, with a sweet dose of bullshit thrown in.
I've learned that sometimes there is just no pleasing some people.
I've learned that I can't be all things to everyone.
I've learned that I can't deeply love anyone until I first deeply love myself.
I've learned that procrastination is the great killer of everything.
I've learned that sharing our innermost feelings with our lover is often a huge mistake, or the best move we could make (timing is everything!).
I am learning to be honest with myself.
I am learning that we have to work at love, be patient with love, and nurture love. And that when we have hurt someone with our words, there may not be any recovery, even with time.
I am learning.
Sometimes it hurts to learn.
This way we know, by our growing pains, that we are still alive.
Oz
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