Monday, August 3, 2009

Why be in a short term relationship and why is that good?

Because they’re fun, romantic, exciting and amazing!

Duh!

However, if you ask 100 people why they are in a short term relationship, you’ll probably get 100 different answers. Generally, you’ll find the answers fall into a few categories:

1) “I don’t want to commit to anyone right now”
2) “I don’t see anyone that’s right for me”
3) “I can’t seem to get anyone to be that interested in me” or
4) “I’m not good at Long Term Relationships

Most people know what they don’t want but not what they do want. They know they don’t want to get hurt. They know they don’t want to make mistakes. They know they don’t want anyone who doesn’t “qualify”.

This mindset is a recipe for failure. How can you get what you want if you don’t know what you want? If you don’t ask, you don’t get.

To answer the question, you and your partner get to be fun, romantic, exciting and amazing with each other. It’s an opportunity to practice Long Term Relationship skills. But the best reason to be in a Short Term Relationship is it gives you an opportunity to be fully present with another person. When you are fully present, “Defining Moments” sometimes happen, creating memories that last forever.

Let your Short Term Relationship take you where it wants to go and you’ll enjoy your trip for however long it lasts. Take the time to “smell the roses” You’ll find that the true joy of life is the journey - not the destination.

Tony

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